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Do you truly know your partner?
When the shine that was there in the start has gone and the years slowly but surely pass by, you gradually descend into patterns which can be difficult to see and to step out of. These patterns though, can completely ruin a relationship taking away the spark and the romance.
The man often starts to get bored and introverted. He gets irritated by the never ending small "trivial" tasks of daily life and spends most of his time in front of the computer screen or television where he can sit and vacantly stare into the screen. In this way he can escape the incessant waves of thoughts and feelings. Maybe he did not attain all his goals and the monitor has become a place he can sit and dream of what could have been.
The woman feels the mans missing presence in the relationship and gets sad, frustrated and feels unloved. With the mans missing presence and engagement in the relationship she begins to take over the roles and tasks the man should be taking care of.
Tantra sees life and the universe as being feminine in their essence while consciousness and emptiness are seen as being masculine in their essence. When a man no longer can or wants to penetrate life with his consciousness so that it purrs at his feet he often goes to another state of being that he instinctively knows of: emptiness. He prefers to do things (like watching television or fishing) which lead him to a state of emptiness.
When a woman feels she no longer has the man's consciousness in life, but just his emptiness she will instinctively start to fill in the gap by starting to take decisions, to gain overviews, to plan etc, all masculine traits and qualities. This will make her irritable and dominating as she has to play a role which goes against her feminine nature.
A good way to get the spark back in the relationship is by getting out of the patterns which have been created in the relationship after years of unconsciousness. The patterns can be broken by asking each other deeper questions and in this way uncover hidden aspects of your souls. In this way you will start a wonderful path of rediscovery of yourselves and the other each other and you will re-awaken the romance.
For example, its surprising how little you know each other when it really comes to it. Do you know your partners longings and fantasies? Do you know his/her thoughts? Do you know his or her feelings?
How well do you fit together? Just because you like the same food and the same pets does it mean you will have a good and long relationship together?
Did you ever ask your partner which 3 parts of their body were the most sensitive parts?
Do you know why your partner attends (or does not attend) church?
Research has shown that if married couples asked each other the proper questions that 83% of marriages could be saved.
Our editorial staff has recently discovered this beautiful e-book called 1000 questions for couples. A book filled with the most important questions that you should be asking each other. You can click here to read more about the book. Its good reading! And especially if you want to learn more about your partner.
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Do you know your partner?
